It is once again the time to remember fondly one’s own mother. Mothers play a pivotal role in the upbringing of their children. They evolve from being the “ the most important person” in her child or children’s life to that of being “ behind the scenes.’ Even if children hurt her by words and actions, it is only a mother who will never hold that against them. As all things, the role of mothering too is under going rapid changes with ‘subtlety’ being the key word in dealing with present day children.
The changing equation
There is a beautiful saying that goes, “God cannot be everywhere, so he made mothers”.
For a mother the child in her life takes precedence. A modern mother is both a sounding board and also a dartboard! A modern day mother plays a pivotal role of a confidante and a counselor on career guidance too. Despite her impressive portfolio, she cannot afford to keep her head in the clouds for her children will not allow her to!
Having two teenage children I have learnt the most important lesson of my life, ‘ I am always in the wrong!’
I am yet to come up with the right answer to the problem my teenage daughter faces. If she has a fall- out with her friend, I am solely responsible for it and no answer of mine is bound to satisfy her. Even silence at that time is not golden!
Buying clothes is another task that makes us glare at one another like sworn enemies. She feels that my colour sense is suspect and my fashion sense is retrograde. I feel if left to her choice, the dress will be pushed to the back of her wardrobe even before the credit card statement arrives the following month.
I am not sure whether my mother had to face such an uphill task. Whenever I feel that I am the lone swimmer in this motherly mire, I seek solace with like-minded parents and I feel great when I know that I am one of many!
A mother is someone who should stay firmly in the background as far as my teenage son is concerned. He is so caught up with work that he can only remove half the buttons of his shirt before removing them along with the vest and throwing it anywhere in his room. The only clothes he wears are one he can lay his hands on!
We mothers feel most wanted when it is mealtime or laundry time. I too read all books on bringing up children particularly on dealing with adolescents. I have come to one conclusion that all examples used in those books are “ purely imaginary and any resemblance to actual person dead or alive is purely coincidental.”
If mothers take false solace in the fact that this phase would soon pass, they are sadly mistaken. My friend had this to say about her twenty something to- be- married daughter; “Any problem at her fiancé workplace is also my fault!”
Despite all these, mothers are great because they don’t give up easily. They continue nagging, prodding and praying. Most times they are successful in their job because unconditional love triumphs.
I amend the introductory statement, “ God couldn’t deal with adolescents, and so he thought of scapegoats in the form of Mothers!”
Is mothering the most thankless job with no contentment at all? No, when the children become successful in their own field and they start quoting you to their children(when they are in their forties ), you indeed feel blessed that their heart is in the right place and you have done a great job!
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hey so many of them on mother.........
it seems you are really crazy about your mom
any how
tell me one who is not?
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one more to add. Even in computers the main board controlling all commands is called" Mother Board".
Mother is always a commander in chief who straightens her children .
Ther is no substitute for Mother
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Agreed with you Chandrika, I have not reached that stage, my son just turned 6 years old. But still I can understand
Wishing you a Happy Mother's Day
MayaAnil
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We mothers feel most wanted when it is mealtime or laundry time. I too read all books on bringing up children particularly on dealing with adolescents. I have come to one conclusion that all examples used in those books are “ purely imaginary and any resemblance to actual person dead or alive is purely coincidental.”
I agree with you cent percent. But take care of yourself....live long enough to witness your children quoting you to your grand children!!!
Sooni
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